"Eliminate Defiance and Back Talk, WITHOUT Using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, Or Rewards"
Learn How to DRASTICALLY REDUCE the months (sometimes years) it takes to restore order in your home, strengthen the bond between you and your child, and reconnect your family-Tonight! I am Jason Johnson, The In-Home Parent Coach. I have spent many years working with hundreds of challenging toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D., Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Asperger's Syndrome, and Bi-polar. I work with boys and girls (ages 2-19) with SEVERE emotional/behavioral issues from various ethnic backgrounds, races, and religions.
Dear Parents,
Do you love your child/children? Of course you do! That is why (as far as I am concerned) there is not a single “parenting” skill you will ever need! For knowing how to love your child/children you are already the expert, and nobody can ever teach you how to do that!!!
Unfortunately, love alone does not guarantee that your children will…
Follow directions without talking back
Stop using physical aggression towards others
Be ready for school/bed on time.
Share their toys with their siblings
Tantrum less
Independently clean up the messes they make.
Stop interrupting at inconvenient times
Stop begging and whining
Become accountable for their actions
But, there is something in addition to love that does! What does it take to get my child/teen to cooperate better?
Leadership Training
That right, Leadership Training...You see, it is neither you, nor your child's fault that parenting is so challenging. The reality is there has been a break down in parent-child relationships due to the fast pace, technologically advance, high pressure world we live in today.
To make matters worse, there is very little training, guidance, or assistance available (other than advice from family friends, self-help books, therapy, residential, and hospital treatment for extreme cases).
We have so many technological advancements, and yet, we are left with only a few answers to critical questions. Questions, such as...
How do I get my child to listen the first time?
How do I get my children to stop bickering and whining?
How do I motivate my child without nagging, yelling, or punishing?
Not only that, I have been in every violent situation possible...everything from being spit on, kicked, bit, scratched, having toys/chairs/other objects thrown at me, threatened with knives...and so on. So I can definitely relate to parents when they have to deal with out-of-control, destructive, and/or violent behavior. However, at WORK and in MY HOME I only use NON-VIOLENT/VERBAL DESCALATION TECHNIQUES to handle these behaviors!
Why Am I Sharing All Of This With You?
You see, I have made it my life's mission to serve families-especially parents (at their wits end) and children refusing to behave, however I am only ONE PERSON. To effectively serve families I would only be able to handle about a dozen at a time. (They say it is better to light one candle, than to sit in the dark...but I want to reach more families...)
But, before I get into how to reach more families, I would like to say...till this very day, I go into homes and personally help parents handle daily activities. Activities such as, how to do homework, how to get through dinner time (with everyone eating their meal and staying at the table), how to transition from bath to bedtime, and getting children to bed (just to name a few)
I have been in so many homes that I have noticed a distinct pattern happening to about 95% of parents. This has been my finding...I go into homes where there are caring, loving, and concerned parents that would do anything for their children! (Loving their child is NOT the issue!)
The difficulty I find parents are having is how to incorporate LEADERSHIP SKILLS during the times their children are being defiant or refusing to cooperate. Nothing More...Nothing Less!
How In The World Does That Happen?
With the educational system only teaching children reading, writing, and arithmetic to solve their problems, they are not learning the basic social,emotional, or behavioral skills that help them to form RELATIONSHIPS. Along with the education system failing to teach these skills, there are 3 other reasons why parent's do not possess these skills by the time they become parents.
1) Parents are usually responsible for LEADING 2-5 children within their life-time. (By the time adjustments are made and parents have a better understanding... most children by then have moved out and become adults)
2) There is no course or curriculum on how to handle out-of-control behavior during the most common daily routines (i.e. getting dressed, breakfast time, getting out the house on-time, getting along with siblings, sharing...etc)
3) No child comes with an instructional manual
As a matter of fact, in many home parents don't even realize the family next door is going through the same EXACT DIFFICULTIES! For this very reason, I have a compiled a list of the TOP 10 Mistakes Parents Make When It Come To Leading Their Children that I see in just about every home. They include the following:
Mistake # 1- Improper Modeling by Parents
It is important to stress that it would be an excellent idea for parents to say and do the things they expect from their children/teens. When parent do not model appropriate behaviors, the non-verbal message sent to your children/teens is to “do as I say” and “not as I do”...
Mistake # 2- Asking, Instead of Telling
Many times, parents are not aware that they are asking their children/teens to do something, when they are really attempting to tell them what to do. It is usually disguised by the misuse of your tone of voice (specifically, by putting it in a question form, instead of a command form).
Anytime a question is being presented to children/teens, the question non-verbally communicates that they have some say in the matter. If in that moment, they do not want to do something (or don’t feel like it) they will avoid it! Your child/teen “appears” defiant because of the presentation of a choice, when there was none.
Mistake # 3- Giving too many choices/Giving no choice at all
Too many choices and your child/teen will become overwhelmed by having to pick. Not enough choices and your child/teen will feel like he or she has “no say at all”, and the child will rebel.
Mistake # 4- Reasoning with your child/teen
In a perfect world, reasoning with your child/teen would settle ALL debates, arguments, fights, shouting matches, and hurt feelings when your child/teen doesn’t get his/her way! Logically it would make total sense. If I simply explain to my child/teen, and give an acceptable reason, then he or she will “see the light”.
Then, the child will transform his or her behavior, and possible even thank me for taking the time to explain it, in such a caring and eloquently manner. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world-reasoning while directing simply is an ineffective parenting strategy.
Mistake # 5- Expecting a transition without any warning
What is a transition? Transitions are the time period right after one activity ends, and just before a new activity begins. In other words, transitions are the period of time in-between, changing from activity to the next. Often times parents do not warn their child that something is coming next and expect the child to move on a “moments notice”…
Mistake # 6- Parents verbally state what they don’t want
Typically, the first word that starts off every direction with a child/teen is DON’T…
Don’t run, don’t play with your food, don’t jump on the couch, don’t talk back, don’t take things without asking, don’t chew gum in school, etc…
Please understand, this creates a natural conflict because…
It is physically possible to run, play with your food, jump on the couch, talk back, take things without asking, chew gum in school, and so on…
Saying what NOT to do will never instruct or guide the to what he or she is supposed by be doing in that moment.
Mistake # 7- Directions lack chronological order
Every story, whether spoken, read, or watched in movie form, is structured with a clear Beginning, Middle, and End. Without this structure, it would not be ONE story. Instead, it would be a series of random and isolated situations thrown together.
Too often, parents do not realize they are providing their child/teen with ineffective directions, when they do not say, what to do first, what to do second, what to do third, and what to do last...
Mistake # 8- Giving too many "step" directions at one time
What exactly is a “step”? A step is one direction that breaks down an action into its simplest form. The best way to give directions is to phrase it in the positive (telling the child what to do and how to do it) in 3 steps or less. Too often parents give “loaded” directions like “get dressed” or “clean your room”.
Unfortunately this is a bad set up because each person has a different definition of what is considered clean vs. dirty. These directions are ineffective because these are things we do automatically so we forget it involved more than 3 steps at a time.
Mistake # 9- Personal commentaries mixed in with directions
Every comment or spoken opinion added into a direction, counts as one extra step in that direction! Adding personal commentaries is more than just “adding too many steps”. Even when not intended, they create additional information for your child/teen to process. Ultimately, commentaries are extraneous information about you and your frustration, and they are an adult version of “talking back”.
Mistake #10-Begging/Pleading/Bribing…instead of using leverage
I firmly believe this last common mistake is a combination of the first nine mistakes, all mixed together in a pot. Sometimes, begging, pleading, and bribing with a child/teen can be a last resort. In most cases, begging, pleading, and bribing are “the quick fix”!
This is usually a result of a balancing act because parents…
- Are responsible for their children/teen’s welfare and safety…
- Have care, love, and concern for their child/teen…
- Are responsible for telling their children what to do…
- Must have appropriate coping skills…
- Must have appropriate problem solving skills…
- Have not been taught how to leverage children’s wants…
- Want their children/teens to “just do it already!”…
Obviously, all parents have love, care, and concern for their children/teens, but most of the time, parents (as human beings) just want their own lives to run faster, smoother, and more efficient. Just like children, parents want what they want, and they want it now.
So…
Of course you and your child/teen are going to “bump heads”…you are both using the same strategy to exert power over one another!
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I just cannot leave without you knowing something very important about myself. You see, I am more than just a mental health professional feeding you "psycho-babble nonsense". This topic is very near and dear to my heart and has become my life's mission. Both of my parents died by the time I was 7 years old. I grew up without the loving guidance and nuturance that only a mother and father could give.
Now that I am a grown man, I finally understand what it takes to lead children through their most difficult times. Too many families are suffering with no map, no compass, and no guide to handle the only thing that matters in this world-Human Relationships!
As my contribution to the world, I want to be able to help families not just survive…but THRIVE. That is why if you're not absolutely amazed with the any part of this system, just e-mail me within 1 year for a complete 100% refund. No questions. No hassles.
YES, I will give you 1 FULL YEAR, that is 365 DAYS to put this valuable material to work in your home with your child/teen. You can move at your own pace through the entire system and know that you are not risking one penny. I am so confident that you will see a difference in your parent-child dynamics and your family life that you’ll NEVER want to send it back!
This is finally your chance to give your child the SAME PROVEN LEADERSHIP SKILLS, I personally use in MY HOME and in MY WORK to teach parents DURING a child’s MELTDOWN!
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Sincerely,
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P.P.S. My sole mission is to DRASTICALLY REDUCE the months (sometimes years) it takes to RESTORE ORDER in your home, STRENGTHEN the BOND between you and your children, and RECONNECT your family-IMMEDIATELY!
P.P.S. What happens to the children of those parents that DON'T Learn These Leadership Skills?
- Mistrust for parents and other authority figures
- Difficulties Handling And Expressing Their Emotions
- Difficulties Formulating Friendships with Peers
- Difficulties at School
- Difficulties With Drugs and Alcohol
- Difficulties at Work
- Problems with the Law
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